What I've Learned

I fly a lot but I had a chance to actually drive to my job today. It was a day like any other day except for the fact that, as I was driving, a post popped into my head. I guess being a frequent flyer frequently induces writer's block.

It occurred to me that my being a newly-created 47 year old provides me with nearly a half century of experience from which to glean wisdom... or the repetition of all-too-familiar "oops events." And while you and I have seen the dreaded e-mail forwards with all types of quips about how after such and such time you know this or that, I have no desire to plagiarize. I may be unconventional, but I am absolutely original. So...

Here's what I have learned; in my own words:

1. LOVE is the only thing that is real.
2. Life is not measured by the number of breaths I take. Just breathe.
3. Some people will only love me with conditions attached. Just love.
4. Once I decide that I have it all figured out, I have quit searching. Ouch!
5. I don't know a thing, and I'm good with that.
6. Music is a gift from the heart of an artist. I want to make some.
7. Love is the ONLY thing that is real.
8. Memories are not the past. They're happening now. Pay attention :)
9. Resentment can kill me. Love can heal me.
10. Mean people seem to be everywhere. I don't want to be one.
11. I am myself only to the extent that I know myself. I want to be real.
12. If I look for it, I will have the opportunity to help someone.
13. Love is the only thing that is REAL.
14. Laughter is as powerful as music. Make some.
15. The act of forgiveness should never be an act.
16. If I believe me, I will be as healthy as I say I am.
17. I am loved, and I am worth the effort it may take.
18. I am thankful for all my experiences. They make me who I am.
19. Christ forgave his murderers while they were in the act.
20. LOVE is the ONLY thing that is REAL.

Peace -- jb


  1. Dear Jeff, I sit here so humbled and with tears in my eyes. I've been reading some of your posts and STILL cannot get over the great peace and still beauty that IS you.

    Another thing I find interesting is that I was just writing down some thoughts yesterday and one of them was your eighth statement here: "8. Memories are not the past. They're happening now. Pay attention :)"

    You are the first person I've seen write this. And how amazing I read it a day after I have scribbled something similar on a scrap of paper. I hope at some point to turn the scribbles I wrote into a post.

    The piece to your son....I don't even have words for. Your sentiments and writing are SO complete that all I could do was soak in the love and let the tears fall from my eyes.

    I have missed you and apologize for being so out of touch. My whole life went topsy turvy. I just signed a book contract on the 21st of this month after a long intense period of work. Life is such an amazing journey and coming here today has somehow shifted something in me in a very beautiful way. I am grateful to once again connect to your highly unique and beautiful being. I can't thank you enough for...just being who you choose to be. There just are no words.

    From my heart,

  2. Thanks Robin... You are the kindest blogger I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. All the best to you.


  3. Hi Jeff, You not a christian because you deny the doctrine of Christ (2 John 1:9)You deny the gospel, the Godhead, the divinity of Christ, and the lake of fire. Your teaching heresy. To be saved from your sins you must abide in the doctrine of Christ. Seek the real Jesus, Thanks Bort


Have any thoughts on this post? I'd really love to hear from you. Be Peace, Make Peace -- jb